“And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and he brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” (Genesis 2:22-23, KJV)
For a long while, I had been meditating about this Scripture and the thing that caught my eye was bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. I did not understand why Adam said it like this, yet something was telling me that there is a revelation in that Scripture. God does not do anything by accident, He always has a reason. And this was the revelation that came to me: when you look at someone you do not actually see their bones, you first see their flesh. At that moment I understood the revelation and the actual depth of what Adam said.
The inside of the Woman spoke to Adam before the flesh did. Are we not living in times where people seem to forget we forget that inward beauty is equally, or even more, important than outside beauty? Outward appearance seems so important but it’s not for nothing that the saying goes “not all that glitters that is gold”. Something might look nice from afar but can be a whole different thing when you get closer. There is a reason that Scripture says that God looks at our inside and not our outward appearance (1 Samuel 16:7). The outward would have disqualified many when it comes to marriage, but the inside allowed them to find their “one”. The outward is so deceiving that many eventually find out that prioritising appearance has led them to marry the wrong person. In the Garden of Eden, Adam gave us a very important lesson in regards to marriage; inward before outward, be spiritually connected before connecting the flesh.
Adam’s spirit connected with the spirit of the Woman, whom we all know is called Eve. Eve’s spirit is the bone of my bones that Adam refers to. As a woman you are someone’s missing rib, the completion to him. That is why in verse 24 it is stated: Therefore (in other words: that is the reason) shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and become one flesh. So this means that they will become united in life, purpose and pleasure. If we read the verse well, it actually states that when a man has found his missing rib, and they are first spiritually connected before the flesh, then the man will leave his mother and fathers house. In other words; search for the spirit and look far beyond outward beauty before you make the lifetime decision of marriage.
If we as this generation do not start to look at marriage from the perspective of Scripture, we will end up marrying according to the world and miss the purpose and essence of God’s design for marriage. We will end up marrying based on the flesh and not the Spirit, for the flesh profits nothing but it is the Spirit that makes alive.