Once upon a time, there was a lady called Amber and a man called James. Amber met James six months ago and she fell head over heels in love with him. I really mean head over heels, it was the love at first sight kind of love. Driving the latest car, big house, jewelry everywhere: he was it! Obviously other women were very much interested in him, but Amber went overboard. She knew everything about him and after chasing him for a while, he accepted her and they started dating. Amber and James married after six months of dating and had a fairy-tale wedding. Let’s face it, in this time and age, you simply cannot have a mediocre wedding, so they spent a lot of money on their wedding day.
The two of them were the talk of the town and they received a lot of gifts. The following day, the newlyweds had another party after church and everyone was happy. Or so it seemed.. There was a mysterious woman in purple who was shamelessly flirting with James, Amber’s now-husband. Two months into the wedding, Amber was constantly crying. This was because her husband was hardly at home. Nope, he’d rather party and chase other women. Amber thought by herself what went wrong? Everything was fine before they got married, so what happened?
This is not just a story, things like this truly happen nowadays. Women are chasing men for the wrong reasons. Even so called believers, daughters of the King of Kings, are indulging in this practice. The Bible clearly states that: “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. “(Proverbs 18:22, NKJV). However, Amber thought that she could take the place of a man and turn this into: she who finds a husband.. The two of them got married within six months, without courting properly. When you do not take the time to get to know each other, an unhealthy and unhappy marriage is bound to happen.
“For the Lord God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the Lord of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.” (Malachi 2:16, NKJV)
We tend to think that the wedding is the most important aspect of the marriage, but it is not. The most important is not that you get married but that you stay married. Couples face their greatest battles after the wedding. We put so much emphasis on the wedding that we forget that the wedding is just a one-day event whereas marriage is a lifetime commitment. Let us get our priorities right! You cannot equate your wedding day to your marriage. One road leads to the aisle and the other leads to eternity. Well, at least that’s what it’s supposed to be, as God does not like divorce.
Amber made terrible mistakes and she was reaping what she did not sow. She did not sow on a Godly ground, so she is reaping what the enemy gave her. She married for the wrong reasons. She married for outward beauty and materialistic things. She never took her time to investigate and seek God’s approval. Remember that no matter what happens, God’s time is the best. Amber started building her marriage on sinking ground, but when God is in it, your marriage will be built on the solid Rock. With God in your corner, you will sow and reap good things!
God bless,
Claudia Baah
Guest Writer
The Purpose Wife 