Everybody’s journey in life is different, and no two ways are the same. This rule also applies to finding love and the journey towards marriage. I like to use the word ‘journey‘ whenever I reference love or marriage, because I see it as a road you have to follow which will eventually lead you to the end point. I wrote about the journey to marriage before, but this time I would like to talk about the journey to finding the right one. Or as we like to call him; Mr. Right.
In the past year, I spent time studying the journey to finding the right man to marry and live together with to the glorification of God. Most women who intend to marry have a vivid picture of the type of man they want to marry. Personally, I have been asking myself “does he the tick all the boxes?” Which in the broad sense means that I want to figure out whether this person fully meet the description of the man I have pictured in my heart.
When a man approaches us, we often consider his appearance, how presentable he is, his social background and how stable he is in life. After all this, we move on to think about his inner being. That is how caring, loving, respectful and compassionate he is. You assess everything about him, including his level of spiritual maturity and his church attendance. If you are somewhat like me, you would prefer to know all about a person before accepting them into your life.
Knowing that these are the things I look for in a man, I have recently been wondering if I will ever find someone who will tick all the boxes. Does the perfect man, according to my dreams, even exist? What if I find someone who ticks eight out of my ten boxes, what will I do? Will I let go of the person and wait for the one who may tick all the boxes? Recognise that I used the word may, which is the expression of possibility. The chances of me finding the right person according to all my desires may be as difficult as hearing a pin fall in a crowded area, while it might be as easy as ABC for others. That is why it is important to know that everyone’s journey to finding her Mr. Right is different.
One box any man should be able to tick off is the one about his love for God. The word of God says in 1 Corinthians 13:13 “and now these three remain faith, hope and love but the greatest of all is love”. Imagine being married to someone who is madly in love with God! The Bible clearly describes the behaviour of a person that loves God; he keeps His commandments (John 14:15). That’s a dependable man to be married to, right? If anyone truly loves God, they are willing to live a life worthy of His approval. Moreover, we know that by seeking God’s Kingdom and Righteousness, all other things will be given to us as well (Matthew 6:33).
All of the aforementioned leads to what I want to share with you today, which is the answer to my own question; chances are you are not going to find the Mr. Right you designed in your head. If you do come across a man who ticks all your boxes, give thanks to the Lord and cherish that man. But if you find a man who ticks just some of the boxes and you’re slightly doubtful, make sure that he loves God with all his heart. To be completely transparent, that is the only box he must absolutely tick off. All the rest of them are just preferences we made up in our mind. Choose him, love God together and watch God turn the-guy-who-doesn’t-tick-all-your-boxes into Mr. Right. As He is your Almighty Father, there is nothing too hard for him.
Go ahead and trust God to send you the Mr. Right of His plans, and not necessarily the one of your dreams. Continue to love God and know that He will supply all your needs according to His riches. Amen.