As a married woman, I try to think positively about almost everything. Positive energy attracts good things most of the time. The same goes for your way of thinking, behaving, speaking and surely your actions. Thinking about marriage gets a lot of people excited about how amazing it will be. We make some sort of a plan, or better yet, fantasy in our mind as to how it will be. Which is good, because who wants to start a marriage with a negative mindset?
However, when one enters marriage with an overly positive mindset, their initial marriage experience will be disappointing. I say this because actual married life often doesn’t align with one’s expectations. The thing about entering marriage with an open and positive mindset, is that you’re fully aware that things can go wrong at times, but your good energy overshadows the bad energy. In marriage, you will experience things you wish wouldn’t have happened. You will go through hardship. You will get hurt. But you should never every allow any of that to break you, or your marriage.
The Renewal of the Mind
Let’s read Ephesians 4:23-27 (KJV). “And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.” Although the word positive is not explicitly mentioned, this Scripture speaks on being renewed in the spirit. If you renew yourself and follow Christ, positivity automatically instils in you because the Lord we serve is righteous. Even though we are not perfect and shall never be, we can get closer to Christ by living with a positive spirit.
Before you knew God and before you became a Christian, you did not know how to renew your spirit. Yes maybe you did good but you did not have Christ living inside of you. Thus, you could not truly differentiate between bad or good. As we read in Matthew 7:17-18, even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit (KJV). These were the words of Jesus. So it is clear that a person who does good and has a positive mind and also puts it into action, will produce good things. You reap what you sow. So my dear (future) wife, what are you sowing? Negative or positive vibes?
Say it out loud: “My relationship will be a healthy one. I will bear children. My finances will increase. Every good thing in my marriage shall come to pass.” Keep on being positive not only in speech but also in your heart. Be pure in the heart and let your positive energy overshadow the bad, always.
God bless,
Edith Wiredu
Guest Writer
The Purpose Wife 