Not believing in yourself is an insult to God, have you thought about it that way? Let’s say that you think you’re not pretty, aren’t you then bashing God’s handwork? And thinking it is impossible to achieve a certain thing, is basically doubting that with God all things are possible (Luke 1:37). By believing people’s negative opinions about you, you are actually giving them the power to define who you are. Being insecure limits you to walk in your full potential, it limits you to reach a certain height in life.
As women, we often feel insecure about the way we look. If it’s not our weight, it’s our skin colour, hair, length, teeth, nose, the shape of our heads, legs, arms and the list goes on and on. We are inclined to listen to that voice in our heads that says we’re not good enough. That means that we overlook scriptures like “I am fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 13:14) and “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13).
I remember the days I used to be sooooo insecure. It got to the point that when people would tell me I looked beautiful, I would think they were just being nice. I rather believed the negative comments people made about me. For example, I was told that I was not pretty enough and that I would never find someone that would fall in love with me. I remember someone making fun of the way I dress and it really got to me. Getting bullied really does something to your confidence, because the more it happens, the more you start to believe your bullies’ opinion of you.
During that period, I hated going outside or simply sitting in the metro. If I did go outside, I would keep staring at the ground out of fear that people would laugh at me. I remember the days that I would pretend to be sick and beg my mom to let me stay home. My mom would always force me to go though. Naturally, this woman knows me too well and she always advised me not to listen to whatever people were saying. She would tell me “You are a very beautiful lady, don’t believe those negative comments. They are just jealous of you.” Back then, I didn’t believe her. What mother doesn’t think her child is beautiful? But let me tell you something; my mom is really my backbone.
If it wasn’t for my mother, I would have given up a long time ago. She would always pray for me at night while I was sleeping. At that time, I didn’t understand the power of prayer so I would get annoyed every time she came to pray again. Little did I know that she was actually giving me the courage not to give up. She was pushing me to believe in God. She prayed every dark cloud of insecurity away and made me immune to the negativity around me. I will always be thankful for the life of my dear mother. She inspired me and motivated me never to give up. It was through her I decided to give my life to Christ.
When I decided to trust in God and walk with Him, He showed me that being insecure doesn’t take you far in life. If you allow your insecurities to rule you, it will be impossible to have a sound mind. You will live in fear, while God hasn’t given us the spirit of fear but of sound mind, power and love (2 Timothy 1:7). When I read this Scripture, I knew that being insecure is not from God. God is pleased when you are confident. He is pleased when you can walk in your purpose without having a doubtful mind. Never let anyone’s negative comments get to you. Pray and believe what God says about you, because that is the most important.
I spoke about prayer first, because it is through prayer that you can hear the voice of God. Trust me, the moment you start having conversations with God it will boost your confidence level. Read the Scriptures and you will find out what God says about you, then you will never have a reason to be insecure again. Have confidence in Jesus and He will wipe away every spot of insecurity.