Unity has become less popular recently. “I like to keep my circle small,” is what many reply when asked about their friends. Others reply by saying they don’t need anyone else but “ me, myself, and I.” Having few friends or being a loner seems like the thing to do, which is actually very funny in this social media era. We get more social on the internet, but less social in real life. This is rather unfortunate, because we could make use of our friendships to create great unions, especially between women. A union requires the following aspects: communication, cooperation and coordination. Without communication there is no relationship. Without a relationship, there is no unity. We should seek to talk to (not about) each other. A union requires cooperation, togetherness. We use communication to talk and to understand one another. And as we agree on certain points, we are then able to work together. “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3, KJV) Those who agree can work together and move forward, those who don’t agree, can’t go anywhere together. Then finally, there needs to be some coordination. Coordination is the harmonious interaction between the individuals. When everyone knows their role in the union and does their part, there will be an interaction that will bring forth greatness.
I agree that having many friends can be quite a problem at times, because it may have you wondering if someone is truly your friend. However, cutting off everyone isn’t the way to go either. We need to try to find a balance somewhere, because having people around is a good thing. Think about it this way: even Jesus had friends. If Jesus didn’t feel too good to have friends, who are we to feel like we don’t need anyone in our lives. Jesus had 12 disciples (friends). Among those, he had three friends he was closest to (Peter, James and John) and one whom he loved dearly (it has been argued that this could be John, John 19:26). This shows that you don’t need many friends, but there is a need for people around you. God did not create us to be individual beings. He created us to have companionship; not only with Him, but with others as well. Hence the Great Commandment that we should love God and we should love others the way we love ourselves (Matthew 22:37-39).
With other people around, you can create a unity; for together you can achieve much more than alone. However, there is this perception that women cannot seem to work together. Whether it’s a worldly women’s group or a Christian women’s ministry, the general opinion is that we cannot have a drama-free atmosphere. To be honest, I’ve been one of those people who has had that thought. I used to not like being around many ladies, because there would always be some gossiping, backstabbing, or other nonsense, or so I thought. Thankfully, I realized that this is a tactic the devil uses to keep us divided, because he knows that women who work together can achieve great things. The devil’s sole aims are to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). He can steal the joy of being around women, kill the vision of the group, and destroy any unity, if we keep this mind set.
As women, we were naturally created to give birth and then to take care of that which we have given birth to. This does not only apply to having babies, but also to having visions and goals. We can birth greatness by setting up our goals, and we can care for them by working towards them. Just imagine how much more can we achieve when we form a union and bundle our ideas. If you’re looking for an example of a powerful union, look at the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. They are three individuals who are One. They communicate (i.e., John 5:30, Luke 23:34), they cooperate (Luke 3:21-22), and they coordinate (John 15:26).
Ladies, let us form bonds that cannot be broken. Let us birth greatness together.
God bless,
Ruth Osei
Co-founder of The Purpose Wife
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