Lady 1: Have you heard what she said about you?
Lady 2: What did she say? Tell me!
Lady 3: I heard her saying to a friend that you..
People that are consistently focused on gossip are simply distracted. Gossip is something you should be able to ignore as a Christian. People that are being talked about are mostly people that are doing something in the community. They are people that stand out, are gifted and dare to be different. In life, if you desire great success, you should be prepared for rumors and envy. These are some of the tactics the devil uses to discourage you.
People that gossip with you are most likely the people that will gossip about you. Never feel comfortable with someone that loves to gossip. And if you are one of them, you need to turn to God so He can fix you. One thing I have noticed, is that people that love to gossip cannot keep long-term relationships and they consistently ruin good friendships. Every year they fall out with someone. Every year they are close to a different person. I know that this is a fact, because the bible even confirms this in Proverbs 16:28 (NKJV): “A perverse man sows strife, and a whisperer separates the best of friends.”
Babygirl, you cannot be a Spirit-filled Christian lady and at the same time also a gossiper. It’s an ERROR #africanpreachervoice. It is very unfortunate that in some of our churches today it is gossip that is ruining the gathering of the saints. People always have something to say about one another. It is either about the way someone dressed, the way someone sings, the way someone looked at another person or something that was said by the preacher. We often forget that Jesus is coming back for a church without spot or wrinkle. The church is not the building, but the church is you and I. How prepared are you for the coming of Christ? My fellow Christian sisters, please don’t let gossip destroy the church. Don’t let gossip cause you to miss your destiny. Don’t let it distract you from your purpose.
Years back, I used to have a friend that was very close to me. This girl knew everything about everybody. Well, not everything, but she always had something to say about somebody. It just wasn’t right. First, I got along with it. When someone comes up with stories, at first it can seem very exciting and you want to hear more, so you easily gossip along, sometimes consciously or unconciously. Gossip has become normal in today’s society, but you will hate gossip when you find out that the person you confide in is also spreading the things you told her in confidence. I have experienced this so many times.
After a while I noticed that the only thing this particular friend talks about is other people, so I got fed up and tried to distance myself. I thank God that we didn’t have a fight, but we just went our separate ways. We both noticed that there was nothing to talk about, because every time she came up with a story I didn’t really respond. That is also one way to silence gossip. The reason why gossipers love to do what they do, is because they manage to entertain their listeners. If you are someone that manages not to listen to gossip or you simply don’t show interest, you’re not only helping yourself, but you are also helping the one trying to gossip. If nobody is willing to listen to the things you have to say, you will not share it. It is as simple as that.
How to deal with gossip?
1. Learn to overlook things; it is not always necessary to give a reply.
2. Surround yourself with people that are allergic to gossip. Those people are the ones that are not interested in rumours, and even if they hear it they don’t pass it on.
3. If you find yourself gossiping all the time, you need to acknowledge this and tell God to fix you. “Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin.” (Psalms 51:2, NKJV)
4. Pray for strength. Sometimes the things you hear about yourself can be so painful. It feels like a gut punch. When you notice it’s becoming a burden, please feel free to approach that brother or sister and do your uttermost best to make peace. “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.” (Matthew 18:15, NKJV)
5. Don’t treat others the way you don’t want to be treated. Before you come up with a rumour or entertain one, ask yourself if you would be happy if you heard the same thing about yourself. “And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” (Matthew 22:39, NKJV)
I love the last advice. The world would be a better place if we treated one another how we want to be treated. If you want to see that change it starts with you!