Wedding, Marriage and the Aftermath

Sad woman kneeling at the waterside

Jona met James six months ago and she fell head over heels in love with him. I really mean head over heels, it was the love at first sight kind of love. Driving the latest car, big house, jewellery everywhere: he was it! Obviously other women were very much interested in him but Jona went overboard. She knew everything about him and after chasing him for a while, he accepted her and they started dating. Jona and James married after six months of dating and had a fairy-tale wedding. Let’s face it, in this time and age, you simply cannot have a mediocre wedding, so they spent a lot of money on their wedding day. The two of them were the talk of the town and they received a lot of gifts. The following day, the newlyweds had another party after church and everyone was happy. Or so it seemed.. Guess who did not see the woman in purple who was shamelessly flirting with her man? Two months in to the wedding, Jona was constantly crying. Her husband was hardly at home. Nope, he’d rather party and chase other women. Jona thought by herself what went wrong? Everything was fine before they got married, so what happened?

This is not just a story, things like truly happen nowadays. Women are chasing men for the wrong reasons. Even so called believers, daughters of the King of Kings, are indulging in this practise. The Bible clearly states that he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). However, Jona thought that she could take the place of a man and turn this in to: she who finds a husband.. The two of them got married within six months. Personally, I believe that six months is too short to get an insight in the character of the other person. When you do not take the time to get to know each other, an unhealthy and unhappy marriage is bound to happen. We tend to think that the wedding is the most important aspect of the marriage, but it is not. The most important is not that you get married but that you stay married. Couples face their greatest battles after the wedding. We put so much emphasis on the wedding that we forget that the wedding is just a one-day event whereas marriage is a lifetime commitment. Let us get our priorities right. You cannot equal your wedding day to your marriage. One road leads to the aisle and the other leads to eternity. Well, at least that’s what it’s supposed to be seeing as God does not like divorce.Malachi 2 verse 16 NIV translationJona made terrible mistakes and she is reaping what she did not sow. She did not sow on a Godly ground so she is reaping what the enemy gave her. She married for the wrong reasons. She married for outward beauty and materialistic things. She never took her time to investigate and seek God’s approval. Time.. Is that not want men use as means to get married quick? Remember that no matter what happens, Gods time is the best. Jona started building her marriage on sinking ground, but when God is in it, your marriage is built on the solid Rock. With God in your corner, you will sow and reap good things.

God Bless,
Claudia Baah

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