The word submission has been given quite a negative taste to it. This is probably due to the fact that many misinterpret the submission of men and the submission of God. As women, God does not want us to be slaves/servants in our own homes. Yet this is what many women think of when they hear the word “submission”. This is not true! What is true, is that there is a hierarchy in the Kingdom of God, which is: Christ – Husband – Wife.
The Bible speaks about this in Ephesians 5:22 – 24 (KJV): ‘’Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything’’. Note that it says your own husband, because let’s be honest, we are living in a generation that wives are being submissive to someone else’s husband. But that is a matter for another time. The submission that the Bible is talking about is in regard to referential fear and honor towards the head of the family. Even as Christians, we have to submit to God. When we submit to God it is not because of fear, but of utmost respect and reverence. When God created Eve, it was for the purpose of being a helpmate. Eve was supposed to help Adam and follow his lead, because he is the head. We, as (young) women, need to start opening our eyes and understand how God sees a particular hierarchy in the family. If not, we will lack critical understanding and stay single for a very long time or be unhappily married. Two captains on one ship will not work. One must come under the other, that is the way God ordered it to be.Being submissive to your husband does not mean that you have to follow him when he goes against the things of God. Let’s get in to this by addressing the story of Sapphira and Ananias (Acts 5:1-11), which teaches us a lot about submission to the right man. Both Sapphira and Ananias connived to deceive the apostles, and eventually they both got killed. My greatest lesson was that the vision of Ananias, as the head, was not a vision that Sapphira should have run with. She did not realize that in time but instead went along with the idea of not giving all the money to the apostles, which led to her demise. There, my fellow women, pray that God gives you a man with a God-fearing vision. Because where there there is no vision, people die. Your ( future) husband is your covering. You do not have to go out and look for him. The bible states that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). You are a good thing and you bring favor into the life of your husband. As I mentioned before, you need a man with a God-fearing vision. If your husband is a God-fearing man, it means that he knows and loves God. With the love of Christ in him, your submission to him will come easy. When we, as women, understand the love of Christ and what God wants of us when we enter into marriage, favor and blessing will follow us.
If there is any one woman that we need to emulate, it would be the Proverbs 31 woman. Proverbs 31 is an advice given to king Solomon by his mother. It talks about the attribute of a God-fearing woman. Let us aspire to become like that woman. Let’s help, nourish, uplift and become an intercessor in our own household. We are special in the eyes of God, so let us therefore honor God also in the marriage by honoring our husband.